The Work Works When You Work It
The Power of Doing the Work: From Knowledge to Embodied Understanding
I’ve just wrapped up a 12-week transformational parenting program with a courageous group of parents and caregivers. Hearing their reflections at the end of our time together reaffirmed one simple truth: the work works when you work it.
Every single one of them came in with honesty, vulnerability, and a willingness to learn. They stepped into a space that invited education, reflection, exploration, and experimentation. And because they showed up fully, they grew -
as people,
as parents,
and as advocates for safety, connection, and communication that truly helps and heals.
It is an honour to witness these transformations, both big and small. Parents discovering new ways to connect. Caregivers breaking generational patterns. Families learning how to communicate in ways that nurture rather than wound.
These aren’t just skills, they are life-changing shifts that ripple through homes, relationships, and future generations.
“Transformation is not a future event. It' is a present activity.”
— Jillian Michaels
A Common Theme: Self-Advocacy
Every group I work with seems to run a theme, something that connects them in their growth journeys. For this group, the theme was self-advocacy.
So many of the women who joined had been conditioned to believe their role was to keep the peace in their homes, sacrificing or martyring themselves for the wellbeing of their husbands and children. Over time, they learned to suppress their own needs, deny their feelings, and silence their emotional world.
But across these 12 weeks, something shifted. They began to see the truth: all feelings are welcome and valid.
They started to implement the emotional intelligence lessons into their families, not only learning how to support their children through big feelings, but also allowing themselves to express their own emotions. No longer pretending to be “fine,” they began modeling what it means to be fully human. Their children now see a parent who feels, who expresses, and who takes responsibility for their emotions in healthy, connected ways.
Almost every student shared the same realization: they entered the program with an intellectual knowing, but they’re leaving with an embodied understanding.
They walk away with a new confidence, trusting what feels right for themselves and for their families.
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we'll ever do.”
— Brené Brown
Why This Work Matters
This 12-week program isn’t “extra.” It isn’t something nice to do when you have time.
It is the
foundational education every parent and caregiver needs:
- For those considering parenthood, it provides the essential knowledge and tools to begin the journey prepared and resourced.
- For those already raising children, it fills in the gaps left by a world that doesn’t hand us a manual for parenting.
Parenting is the most important role we’ll ever have. And yet, most of us were never taught how to do it in ways that build resilience, safety, and connection. That’s what this program offers, guidance, support, and a space for honest growth.
“To be in your children's memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.”
— Barbara Johnson
The Work I'm Called to Do
As a Master Trainer for The Jai Institute for Parenting, I have the privilege of guiding groups of 10–16 people at a time through our 24-week transformational parenting program. I love the work I do, the people I get to meet, and the influence I have on parents who will go on to touch the lives of children I may never meet.
And yet, I hold every single one of those children in my heart.
Because when a parent learns to heal, grow, and connect, the ripple effect is immeasurable. This is how generational patterns shift. This is how healthier, safer, more connected families are created.
I believe in this work because I’ve seen it over and over again: when you do the work, it works.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If this resonates with you, I invite you to explore more about the Jai Institute for Parenting and the transformational work we do.
And if you’re ready to step into your own growth, softening unhelpful patterns, shifting old habits, and building deeper connection with your children, book a discovery call with me.
I’d be honoured to guide you in the right direction and help you uncover the tools, understanding, and confidence you need to create a parenting journey that truly nurtures both you and your family.
